Before you were planning your Niagara Falls or Niagara-on-the-Lake wedding, you likely dreaded the thought of going to another boring, simple themed wedding shower. There’s no doubt about it, we’ve all been to tedious bridal showers with what feels like hundreds of strangers, the same food, cake and silly games. But your wedding shower doesn’t have to strike the same horror in your friends and family. A wedding shower is an important event – it’s an opportunity for the bride to be “showered” with gifts to start her new life – and a great opportunity for the closest female friends and family members of the bride to honour her and celebrate her upcoming wedding. If you’re trying to figure out a way to host a fun-filled party that everyone will remember for being a great time, here are some things to consider about bridal showers.
Who Hosts the Shower?
The maid of honour usually hosts the bridal shower, unless she’s a member of the bride’s immediate family. Etiquette frowns on a family member (such as the bride’s mother, sister or mother-in-law) hosting the party because it could appear that this person is asking for gifts for the bride. Though your mother, sister or mother-in-law can be involved, they’re not usually the ones who host the party. This means the maid of honour is responsible for picking up the tab for the party. If it is an informal or casual affair, this is appropriate. However, if the shower is going to be a formal or potentially expensive venture, it’s perfectly acceptable for the maid of honour to ask the other bridesmaids to chip in.
Set The Tone
Just as with any party planning, there is usually a theme for the bridal shower and the theme can be carried through from the invitations to the food to the venue to the type of gifts given to the bride. If you choose a theme, try to be creative. No one wants to go to a pink and white themed party. Think cosmopolitan, rustic, lingerie or pick a country where the couple will be honeymooning and run with it. There are so many ways to spice up the bridal shower by using your imagination and website such as Pinterest and wedding magazines.
Timing Is Everything
Your wedding shower should take place anywhere from six months before the wedding to the week before your Niagara Falls or Niagara-on-the-Lake wedding. Keep in mind if you’re planning a bridal shower close to the wedding, it might feel overwhelming for some guests. Hosting the wedding a couple of months before the wedding is a nice touch, providing some anticipation for the big day. You can host a wedding shower at any time of the day, though afternoon showers are most popular.
Who Do You Invite?
Your guest list will depend on the type of shower that’s being thrown. However, you must ask the bride for a guest list. If a bride has more than one shower, it is imperative the hosts consult each other to ensure guests are not invited to both showers. There really are no rules as to who should be invited to a shower except that they should be also attending the wedding. The one exception is an office shower. Sometimes, you can’t invite all your coworkers to your wedding, but they might want to throw you a wedding shower.
Traditions and Fun
Most of the wedding shower will be spent eating, laughing, talking and opening presents. Some people have bridal shower games, such as making a toilet paper wedding gown or putting bows from the gifts onto a paper plate to create a hat for the bride to wear or a bouquet for her to use for the wedding rehearsal. But if you’re having a posh affair, forego the silly games and focus on laughter, stories and sorority. The tradition of having the groom attend the wedding shower with flowers for his fiancée is a nice touch and often a lovely moment. It also gives anyone who hasn’t yet had a chance to meet the groom (for example, an aunt who lives out of town) the opportunity to do so.